Showing posts with label motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motivation. Show all posts

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Everything Counts

It amazes me to see how many people:

- Listen to nasty music and think it won't affect them.

- Watch bad images and think they will not be impacted by them.

- Lie, cheat, and steal and think that it will not undermine their
reputation.

- Are late, unprepared and apathetic and think that it will not
impact their income potential.

- Make excuses and blame others for their sorry state and think
that it serves a useful purpose.

- Surround themselves with a lousy reference group and think that
they will not become just like them.

- Gossip about and criticize other people and think that it does
not demonstrate a lack of character.

- Expose their mind and soul to behavioral indecencies and really
think that it will not negatively impact their results.

These people are delusional if they think that’s the case.

UNFORTUNATELY, far too many are OVER-EXPOSED to these behavioral
indecencies which add absolutely no value to their lives.

In fact, by remaining exposed to these indecencies, they are in
effect digging a grave which they may never climb out of.

THE SOLUTION

You must never forget that your mind thinks about what it is
exposed too.

Therefore, consciously give serious and consistent exposure to
whatever is:

- True

- Noble

- Right

- Pure

- Lovely

- Admirable

If anything is excellent or praiseworthy—expose yourself
accordingly.

YOUR TWO-STEP CHALLENGE

Your challenge each and every day is twofold:

Step 1. Expose yourself to new ideas, to stimulating conversation,
to positivity, to good—honorable people, to quality music, to
healthy food, and...anything that is virtuous.

Step 2. Expose other people to your good character, sound judgment,
and to your helpful nature. You must expose people to the example
you want emulated in society.



--Gary Ryan Blair, Everything Counts


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Thursday, May 13, 2010

How to Be Happy When You Have Every Reason Not to Be


Scott Hamilton

Figure skater Scott Hamilton, who won a gold medal in the 1984 Winter Olympics, has had to endure more than his share of tough times.
A childhood digestive disease, never properly diagnosed, permanently stunted Hamilton’s growth and nearly killed him. His mother died of cancer while he was in his teens. Hamilton was dropped by the Ice Capades just two years after his Olympic win, putting his professional skating career in doubt. He battled testicular cancer in 1997 and a brain tumor (benign) in 2004.
Hamilton once lived in fear of the problems that seemed to lurk around every corner, but now he remains happy and optimistic even during difficult times. Here are his secrets for happiness in a very imperfect world... 

Consider all problems temporary... and temporary problems unimportant. As a skater, I knew that I would fall when I tried to learn a new jump. I also knew that these falls were irrelevant as long as I got up after each one and tried again.
I try to apply this lesson to my life off the ice as well. I might have a problem right now, but "right now" is just a moment in time that soon will be gone forever... and my "problem" really is just the starting point of a journey that will lead to a solution to my problem. Why let a starting point affect my mood? What matters is where I end up, and that’s going to be somewhere better.
It might take me a while to solve my problem, but I will start to feel better as soon as I begin working toward a solution. I find tremendous joy in tackling my problems. It breaks the "victim mentality" -- a sure path to unhappiness -- and puts me back in control of my life. 

Don’t face problems alone. Men’s figure skating is a solo sport, but I still needed a coach to get the most out of my abilities. Life often seems like a solo sport, too, but finding a coach -- a spouse or a friend with whom we can share our problems -- will make our attempts to solve those problems more enjoyable and more successful. Humans are social animals, as my coach, Don Laws, used to remind me. We’re not designed to face problems alone, so we shouldn’t try to do so. 

Find strength in challenges. My mother’s struggle with breast cancer taught me that there are positive aspects to even the most devastating losses. For three years, my mother continued to earn a living... work toward her master’s degree... and raise three children, even as she endured chemotherapy.
As awful as it was when she died at age 49, the lessons I learned from her strength in the face of the challenges were the most important lessons of my life. I had been an underachiever as a boy, but following her example transformed me into an Olympic champion.
We cannot completely control the events of our lives, but we can control how we respond to them. It’s this that defines us. I choose to be happy about the wonderful example my mother set for me in those final years, not sad about her death. 

Don’t delay difficult conversations. My first inclination when someone does something that bothers me is to bite my lip and remain quietly unhappy. Over the years, I have learned that stoicism only prolongs my displeasure. As much as I dislike confrontations, they often are the quickest path back to happiness. 

Example: My agent, Bob Kain, no longer had much time for me by the early 1990s. He had added new clients and taken on a management role in his firm. My career was suffering -- but for years, I said nothing. I didn’t want to damage my relationship with Bob. Instead, I let my resentment build until our relationship was almost irreparably harmed. After I finally spoke up, we found a solution -- a different agent at the company would handle the details of my career while Bob served as adviser. I could have avoided years of unhappiness if I had just voiced my displeasure sooner. 

Sell your smile... even to yourself. I once saw Olympic gold medalist Kristi Yamaguchi miss her landing on a triple lutz and fall hard on her back in front of a large crowd. She must have been in pain -- not to mention disappointed and embarrassed -- but she immediately bounced back up with a huge smile on her face. The remainder of her routine was flawless.
The crowd gave Kristi a big ovation. Her smile had convinced them that the fall didn’t matter -- everything was okay.
Kristi’s smile also convinced Kristi herself that everything was okay. It’s easy to lose confidence and feel bad when we "fall." Smiling or laughing releasesendorphins, hormones that trigger feelings of happiness and well-being. In other words, we don’t have to wait until we are happy to smile -- we can use a smile to make ourselves happy.
I put this lesson to use in my own life by searching for the humor in my darkest moments. If I can laugh at myself, my problems seem less daunting. 

Example: I was scheduled to skate in Peoria, Illinois, just hours after I learned that I had testicular cancer. I feared that this could be the last performance of my life, and I desperately wanted to do well -- but my mind was on my cancer, not my skating. Suddenly I noticed a woman in the front row ignoring my routine entirely and casually applying makeup. It made me chuckle to think that this performance that was so important to me was so meaningless to her. My mood immediately lightened, and I was able to get through the rest of the routine. 

Fight for change. The world changes. We change. It’s inevitable. The only way to remain happy is to embrace change and enjoy it. We need to take pleasure in meeting new challenges and take pleasure in the surprises that lie around every corner. The changes that we fear often make our lives much better in the end. 

Example: When the Ice Capades didn’t renew my contract, I feared that my professional skating career was over. As it turned out, getting fired led to one of the greatest successes of my life. My agent, Bob Kain, and I started a rival skating tour, Stars on Ice, that is still going strong and earning money today -- while the Ice Capades folded years ago.
Bottom Line/Personal interviewed Scott Hamilton, who won a gold medal in figure skating in the 1984 Winter Olympics in Sarajevo and cofounded the Stars on Ice professional figure-skating tour in 1986. He is a member of the World Figure Skating Hall of Fame and author of The Great Eight: How to Be Happy (Even When You Have Every Reason to Be Miserable)(Thomas Nelson). www.scottcares.com.

Sunday, December 6, 2009

December Tips for Extraordinary Living by Philip E. Humbert, PhD

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2. Welcome Notes
3. Your Personal Achievement System
4. Quotes of the Week
5. Strictly Business: Your Partner Will Buy You Stuff
6. Resources and Tools for YOUR Success!
7. Humor: The Fickle Finger of Fame

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To achieve extraordinary success, your Personal Achievement System™ must help you understand yourself and the world in which you live. High achievers see real opportunities and have effective “maps” or problem-solving systems so they can navigate efficiently (and quickly!) to any goal they set for themselves.




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2. Welcome Notes


The holiday season is officially upon us and I wish each of you a wonderful, festive and peaceful holiday. TIPS subscriber around the world practice a rich variety of faiths, but I’ve noticed that whatever traditions we observe, almost every culture celebrates at this time of year. So this time, let’s make it extra special!

Whatever faith or tradition you follow, plan to go “all out” this year. It doesn’t take money to set aside time f or worship and thanksgiving, or to extend a hand to someone who needs it. In our home, we celebrate Christmas, so with love and respect for your own traditions, I want to wish you a Merry Christmas and send best wishes for a New Year of peace, love and prosperity.

And on a practical note, I’ve got an extraordinary Freebie of the Month for you in December! This is the time we set goals for the new year, and the key is to set goals that excite and empower you. That’s why I started with my Goal-Setting 101™ ebook to help you design goals that will truly motivate you! If you’ve struggled with “New Year’s Resolutions” or goals in the past, I think you’ll like this! And, to make sure you achieve your goals in 2010, you’ll receive 12 monthly reminders to stay on course, stay focused, and mark your progress throughout the year! (There’s even an option to add monthly coaching calls!) It’s the most powerful Freebie I’ve ever do ne. Get yours at: http://PhilipHumbert.com/Free 

And as always, my only request is that you encourage friends and colleagues (anyone with goals for the new year) to get their own copy. I think you’ll like this!


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3: Your Personal Achievement System (PAS)™


Whether we know it or not, we all have a system for reaching our goals.

When you wanted to learn to ride a bike, get married, start a business, invest for retirement or achieve any other important goal, you probably followed a plan that is “yours” because it’s what you “usually do.” Some of us instinctively join a group (does Weight Watchers
 come to mind?) or we seek a mentor (we ask “Uncle Joe” for advice), we go to the library, or we ponder the problem until we find a solution.

Whatever your system, the question is, Does it work for you?

Too many of us have systems that don’t work, or even worse, we have systems that work just “well enough” that we keep struggling with them. They are inefficient or unreliable. They lead us through dead-ends or too much frustration. High achievers have systems that are efficient, reliable, and help them reach their goals quickly!

I’ve pondered this issue for about 30 years, and while the answers are far more complex than we can cover in this short article, I think there are four basic components in every effective Personal Achievement System™. In looking at your system for 2010, consider these necessary steps:

1. Know thyself. About 3000 years ago, Socrates observed that we do not know ourselves very well. We have only the most basic insight to our strengths and weaknesses, our talents, our desires and our short-comings. Sometimes, we are mistaken about our abilities and limitations.

Sometimes we don’t take advantage of our natural talents because we fail to recognize them. Even more often, we stumble ahead, stubbornly ignoring our own limitations. Successful people know who they are. They know their strengths and use them to create lives of unusual achievement.

2. Understand your world. Too many of us are “tilting at windmills.” We may be trying to sell goods or services the world doesn’t want. Or, we are trying to charge for something the world doesn& rsquo;t value as much as it “should.” Teachers probably know this better than anyone, since educating our children is one of the most valuable things we do. But how well do we pay most teachers?

Some of us are trying to lose weight in a social system that values pizza, chips and chocolate. It doesn’t work very well! Some of us are trying save for the future in a world that encourages us to spend, spend, spend. Again, it doesn’t work out well. You’ve got to know (and understand) the world and the systems around you.

3. Have a great map. To get any place, you must have the tools, skills, and strategies to get there. You need a reliable “map” to get from A to B.

For the world’s most successful people, a “map” is a an effective plan or strategy. The key word there is effective! Winners learn from other people, they buy, copy or learn the technique s. And, yes, they hire coaches! They know that any challenge can be achieved with the right tools. And, they know that mere effort or stubbornly going down a dead-end will lead nowhere. Get and use a good “map!”

4. Winners work hard. There’s no getting around this one. Biographies of people as diverse as Helen Keller, Andrew Carnegie, Eleanor Roosevelt, Charles Lindbergh and Bill Clinton emphasize their unstoppable energy! Whatever your politics, Barak Obama is a remarkable illustration of energy and hard work. He’s everywhere! These are passionate, creative, ambitious people who work all day long. Do something you love, and do LOTS of it!

To achieve extraordinary success, your Personal Achievement System™ must help you understand yourself and the world in which you live. High achievers see real opportunities and have effective “maps” or problem-solving systems so they can navigate efficiently (and quickly!) to any goal they set for themselves.

For help setting goals that really suit you, that fit and excite you and will keep you focused all year long, start with my (free!) Goal-Setting 101.
 And, if you request it, you also get 12 monthly email coaching reminders to stay on track, solve problems and achieve your dreams! Get your free copy (and encourage your friends to get theirs!at: http://PhilipHumbert.com/Free  


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4. Quotes of the Week


"People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success."
-- Norman Vincent Peale

"Success is neither magical or mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.”
-- Jim Rohn

"Everything's in the mind. That's where it all starts. Knowing what you want is the first step toward getting it."
-- Mae West

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”
-- Helen Keller


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5. Strictly Business: Your Partner Will Buy You Stuff


Every December, I remind business owners and CFO's (financial officers) to review their business de ductions for the year. If you use the calendar year as your fiscal or tax year, December 31st is a very important date.

Here are two important facts:

1. Depending on your tax rate, about 40% of everything you make will go to the Government, and the final accounting for most businesses comes on December 31st. The more you make, the more your "partner" will take in taxes.

2. Conversely, any legitimate business expenses you incur in the next three weeks come right off that tax bill. In the U.S., that means "Uncle Sam" is willing to chip in and pay for about 40% of whatever you buy for business purposes! Take advantage of that!

If you need new office equipment, a new computer, or routine office supplies, take action! For the next three weeks, they are "40% off!" If you can pre-pay some regular business expenses (insurance, rent, supplies or fees) by the end of the month, they come directly off your "bottom line" which means lower taxes in April.

Now, obviously, the expenses must be for legitimate business purposes. No cheating! And obviously you should check with your accountant or tax advisor for specific advice in your particular situation. But keep in mind that a few months from now you will pay taxes on every dollar of profit you make in 2009 and if you can legally reduce that amount by stocking up now, that's to your advantage. Think about it!

Want more info? I've got an article you might find helpful, along with dozens of others on my website. The article on year-end tax strategies is at: 
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6. Resources and Tools for YOUR Success!


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Goal-setting done right is the key to success! Over 7000 people have used this ebook in my workshops, seminars and on the web! It helps you set goals that are meaningful, powerful, and exciting for you! When you design the right goals, and stay focused all year long, achievement gets much (much!) easier! That's what this month's Freebie is intended to do. Get your copy now!

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7. Humor: The Fickle Finger of Fame


Several people have sent me the following list, usually crediting them to Charles Schulz, the creator of the wonderful “Peanuts” comics. Wherever this quiz came from, it’s worth pondering. I hope you enjoy it! Take a moment to answer each of the questions, and r ead all the way through. I think you’ll find it well worth a moment of your time.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name five people who have won the Nobel Peace Prize.
5. Name last year’s Academy Award winner for Best Actor or Actress.

The point is, none of us remembers the headliners of yesterday. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List three teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. List three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Name someone who made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?

The lesson: The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that care.


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   Be kind to yourself and to someone else, and
   have a wonder-FULL week!



Philip E. Humbert, PhD,
President, The Philip E. Humbert Group, Inc.
 

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Monday, July 20, 2009

Increase Your 3 Types of Energies

Increase Your Three Types of Energy
By: Brian Tracy

Most successful people can be characterized as having very high levels of energy. Since energy is the fuel with which everything is achieved, there seems to be a direct relationship between energy levels and levels of accomplishment. It is hard to imagine a tired, burned-out person achieving much in life. On the other hand, energetic, positive, forward-moving individuals seem to get and enjoy far more of the things life has to offer than does the average person.

Physical Energy is Basic
We have been led to believe that there is basically one kind of energy. We supposedly replenish this energy by sleeping at night, and during the day, we use it up again. It is as though we are machines powered by batteries, and each night we recharge our batteries for seven or eight hours. However, there are some problems with this view of energy. The biggest problem is that it does not deal with the fact that there are actually three different kinds of energy, each of which is necessary for maximum performance.

The three main forms are physical energy, emotional energy, and mental energy. Each of these energies is different, but they are interrelated, and they depend on each other.

The Sweat of Your Brow
Physical energy is raw energy, coarse energy, bulk energy, what we call "meat-and-potatoes" energy. Your physical energy is what you use to do physical labor. It is the primary energy applied by men and women who earn their livings by the sweat of their brow.

The Source of Enthusiasm
The second form of energy is emotional energy. This is the energy of enthusiasm and excitement. This is the energy that lends sparkle to the life of an individual. This is the energy that is necessary for feeling love, happiness, and joy. Largely, it is your emotional energy that makes life enjoyable for you. In fact, almost everything you say and do is determined in some way by an emotion, either positive or negative.

The Requirement for Creativity
Mental energy is the energy of creativity, of problem solving and decision making. You use mental energy to make sales, write reports and proposals, plan your day and your week, and learn new subjects. Your level of mental energy is a major determinant of the quality of your life.

Conserve Your Best Energies
The reason why most people fail to realize their potential in life and work is because they burn up their energy at the emotional level, or the physical level; therefore, they have very little energy left over for mental activities. Most people burn up their emotional energy through the expression of negative emotions. Negative emotions are like a fire that burns up their energy so quickly that they have very little left with which to think positively and constructively. In fact, one five-minute uncontrolled outburst of anger can burn up as much energy as an average person would use in eight hours of work.

Your job is to think continually about how you can stay calm and positive, and work smoothly and efficient, so you can have more mental energy to do the things that are most important to you in life.

Action Exercises
Here are three things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action:

First, take time to identify the different ways that you either use up or deplete your levels of physical, emotional and mental energy. How could you improve in each area?

Second, be sure to get plenty of healthful, nutritious food so you can keep your physical energy at high levels. This is the key to all other energies.

Third, look for ways to conserve your emotional energies by being more relaxed and optimistic in the face of daily problems and disappointments.

The more energy you have, the happier and more productive you will be.

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Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Dare to believe.......

“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside themselves was superior to circumstance.” Bruce Barton (1886–1967) American advertising executive, U.S. congressman

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Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Good Advice

· Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

· A sharp tongue can cut your own throat.

· If you want your dreams to come true, you mustn't oversleep.

· Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.

· The best vitamin for making friends...... B1.

· The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.

· The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge.

· One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

· You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself.

· If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.

· One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.

· Ideas won't work unless ' You' do.

· Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open.

· The 10 commandments are not a multiple choice.

· The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been.

· Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

· Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away. Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong. Sometimes we just don't realize what real friendship means until it is too late.